Contributed by Meredith of Team RESTORE

In the age of social media and Photoshop, many of us struggle to believe that we are accepted, that we matter, that we really are enough. We hear “Comparison is the thief of joy,” but often continue to damage our self-worth by frequently (and even subconsciously) measuring our lives with others. Today, the importance of believing the simple yet profound statement I am enough is more important perhaps than ever.

We can’t experience true peace, joy, and love unless we know who we are. If we don’t know who we are, then we may never believe we are enough, and thereby accept who the world tells us to be. Loss and confusion around identity holds many of us back from living our dreams and fulfilling our purposes. On the other hand, living from our true identity and “enoughness” can have a massively positive ripple effect in determining the results of our lives. I’ve learned the less I focus on what others are doing, and the more I stay in my lane and focus on my unique assignment and divine path, the more good flows in and out of my life.

A big part of learning to believe I am enough stems from years of “doing the work,” and connecting to my identity as a spiritual being having a human experience. I know how much I am loved, that I am not here by accident but for a purpose. I believe this to be true for each of us. In addition, intentional, daily self-care has been vital in my path to realizing true identity, accepting myself, and believing I am enough. Following are some of my tried and true self-care rituals and strategies that may also help you connect with your true identity and get rooted in your “enoughness”.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

— Marianne Williamson | Spiritual Teacher, Writer, and Lecturer

  • Miracle Mornings

    Win the morning, win the day. I aim to begin each morning with prayer, meditation, visualization, inspirational readings, and/or motivational podcasts to anchor to my identity and set positive intentions. Even five minutes of quiet meditation can make all the difference in subsequent flow of energy and focus. Light a candle, sip a cup of tea, create a ritual and make it your own. If you’re looking to establish a powerful morning routine (or upgrade your current one), I suggest reading “The Miracle Morning” by Hal Elrod.

  • Intuitive eating and movement.

    I like the idea to “Eat like you love yourself.” As a health coach, I feel like I’ve tried every diet under the sun…and am over the labels. My current approach focuses on consuming real, organic, and seasonal plants, clean proteins, and a variety of healthy fats, as well as incorporating cyclical fasting (intermittent and block).

    The same relaxed concept goes for movement. Eating and moving in tune with the cycles of nature, while passing on extreme food restrictions and unnatural workouts, just feels right and creates a flow state that enhances intuition and self-awareness.

  • Time in nature.

    Speaking of earth cycles, spending time in nature is one of the most healing things we can do for the body, mind, and soul. Slow down and marvel at creation. Take a lunch break outside to get vitamin D and give your precious peepers a screen break. Walk barefoot in the grass or keep a grounding mat beneath your desk. Place a Himalayan salt lamp in your office and home for ambient glow and help counteracting EMF exposure. Get plants or a mini herb garden for the window sill. Observing nature reminds us of our divine nature and identity.

  • Embrace your inner child.

    Although this concept may be “woo woo” to some, many of us lose connection with the child inside as we age, from whom we can learn so much about our identity. Getting in a creative zone (like painting, writing, or acting), “playing” (whether a game, frolicking barefoot in nature, or swimming), and a good belly laugh help me feel child-like, present, and carefree. I also keep a photo on the fridge of my 10-year old self in a goofy costume with a silly grin to remember to stay playful. Keep things simple and have more fun!

  • Find resonating affirmations.

    Affirmations can be a powerful way to declare mind-over-matter and remember that feelings are not facts. Feelings can be wonderful and exhilarating, but also confusing and detrimental. Anchor to your truth by finding statements that uniquely resonate. Some favorites I learned from Intrinsic Health Series Biology BaseCamp include: “I am loved. I am accepted. I am enough.” Motivational author Louise Hay has also written numerous positive affirmations in publications for ideas.

  • Do forgiveness work.

    Forgiveness sets the soul free. Take a life relationship inventory and consider who hurt you (small hurts count too). Have you actually forgiven that person? If not, resentment can manifest as physical, emotional, and spiritual blocks that keep you from connecting with your identity and “enoughness”. Know that forgiveness is always possible, even for the worst of hurts, and there are action steps to get free. For healing deep wounds and traumas, seek out a skilled therapist or EMDR specialist to work through the process and get to the other side. An ancient Hawaiian forgiveness practice called “o ho’oponopono” is also a simple and powerful reconciliation tool.

  • Take responsibility.

    Taking full responsibly for your every action allows you to gain amazing power over your life. Living in “victim mode” is disempowering, reactive, and tells the world you’re living from a place of lack. Awareness of your true identity and “enoughness” is the antidote and first step in regaining control. Start by assessing your current health, relationships, career, spiritual practice, self-care practice, service, etc. and then categorically list your goals. If you need support, enlist a qualified coach or accountability partner to evaluate where you’re at to get clear on where you want to go. Own your life.

  • Detox from negative news.

    Since eliminating cable and mostly avoiding mainstream media outlets, I’ve noticed an increase in peace. The majority of media brings negative news that can color how we view the world, the state of humanity, and ourselves . . . and what we focus on grows. To quote Thomas Jefferson, “The man who reads nothing at all is better educated than the man who reads nothing but newspapers.” Another advantage of quitting the news? You create time and mental space for more fruitful and stimulating pursuits. Try a month-long media detox and observe the difference in your outlook and well-being.

  • Journal your gratitude.

    Journaling and practicing gratitude are both profound healing exercises on their own, and combining the two provides even more bang for your buck. There are many ways to go about gratitude journaling. Some prefer a stream of consciousness style writing in the morning, listing things for which they are thankful. Others make a list before bed of the good things that happened that day. I’ve also found the phone app 5 Minute Journal to be helpful with consistency, and includes questions designed to create empowering beliefs and reframe tough days as those of learning and growth. There is always something to be grateful for, and living in gratitude helps us to love more deeply and anchor to our truths. The more you practice, the more natural the state becomes.

  • Be a servant.

    One of my favorite self-help teachers Tony Robbins says, “all suffering is rooted in self-focus.” When I stop focusing on my challenges and look for ways to serve others, life is much more fulfilling, and fun! Serving others also teaches them that they are enough and deserving of love. If you’re having a difficult day, try the mantra “It’s not about me.” Seek someone you can help, there is never a shortage. Getting outside of yourself is freeing and quickly helps to shift perspective and focus on what’s important.

    I know this much is true: recognize and anchor to your “enoughness” and true identity and there is no limit to how your life can be transformed and used for good. The journey is not small potatoes, but the fruits of labor are worth it. Do the work and you will reap what you sow. I hope these self-care ideas help you connect with your identity, affirm your “enoughness”, and increase your joy and motivation in the process to make the world a brighter place.